I’ll admit something small. Last Thursday I had a clean plan for the evening: shoes on, twenty minutes round the block, something with a vegetable in it for dinner. By 18:40 I was on the sofa with a packet of oat biscuits, watching a stranger restore a rusty spanner.
I did not forget the plan. I did not change my mind about it. I held it in my head the whole time, like a receipt for something I’d decided not to buy.
The ache
The biscuits aren’t what stung. What stung was how smoothly my own head went along with it, as if it had been on the biscuits’ side all week.
You know exactly what would help. You can describe it in detail. And then you watch yourself do something else, and you add a charge on top: what is wrong with me?
If you know exactly what would help and still don’t do it, you aren’t short of information. You have some other problem.
The turn
Aristotle, who taught in Athens in the fourth century BCE, noticed this and wasn’t shocked by it in the slightest. In the Nicomachean Ethics, his book on how to live well, he gave the condition a name: akrasia. It means weakness of will, acting against what you yourself judge to be best.
That’s the whole idea. You think the walk is better, and you eat the biscuits.
It sounds obvious now. It wasn’t then: Socrates, his teacher’s teacher, had argued it couldn’t happen.
Why Socrates said it couldn’t
Socrates held that nobody does wrong knowingly. If you really knew the better option, he thought, you would take it. Doing the worse thing just proves you didn’t know.
Aristotle’s reply, more or less: have you met people? We’ve all watched ourselves do it, so a theory that says it never happens is missing something.
Socrates read every failure to act well as a failure to understand. Aristotle thought you can understand perfectly and still ignore it, like a guest nobody talks to.
Two ways of going wrong
Aristotle did not lump all of this together. He split the failure into two kinds, and I found the split useful.
The impetuous person acts before thinking. The biscuits are open before any decision has been made at all.
The weak person does think. They deliberate, reach the right conclusion, and then cave anyway, because the pull of the moment outweighs the conclusion. Mine was this kind. I had the plan and I lost to a packet of oat biscuits.
Aristotle hinted at why. He compared this kind of knowing to a drunk man reciting verses: the words come out, but he doesn’t own them yet. You can hold a belief like a phone number you’ve been told once and haven’t really learned.
One ordinary evening
Take a Tuesday. It is 18:15, you are home, you are tired. The walk is a fact in your head. The sofa is a feeling in your body.
Look at which one is nearer. The walk needs a coat, a door, a cold street. The sofa needs nothing. The comfort is already there in the present tense, and your good intention is still talking about later.
So that’s the gap. You do care about your health. It’s just that at 18:15 the couch is easier to hear.
Your intentions aren’t weak. They’re at the far end of the room, calling to someone who has already sat down.
The one thing to keep
Here is what I’d take from Aristotle. The gap between knowing and doing doesn’t prove you’re broken or secretly lazy. Anyone with both a plan and an appetite will have it.
That doesn’t excuse it. But it changes the question from why am I like this? to what is going on at the moment of choice? The second question you can actually answer. The first just makes you feel bad, and feeling bad has never once got me off the sofa.
Something small for tomorrow
Tomorrow, pick one evening choice you usually lose. Just one. The walk, say.
At the moment you would normally sit down, do not argue with yourself. Do not resolve anything. Just notice what the pull feels like and what time it is, and write both down in one sentence. Nothing else.
You’re not trying to win yet. You’re noting down what happened, because Aristotle’s real answer is about that moment, and about how people change what they want over time, not just what they decide.
What comes next
On Wednesday we’re publishing an audio episode on exactly this: Aristotle’s practical answer to the gap, and a question I’ll leave open here. Are you impetuous, or weak-willed? They need different remedies, and I’d bet you’ll guess wrong.
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If you know someone who’s lost to a packet of biscuits on a Thursday, restack this for them.
Morriseys rusty spanner.
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